Let me start by saying while I have absolutely NO musical talent what so ever I love music. I was raised in a an environment where music was an everyday part of my life. I consider songs and the simple sounds of music to be the very soundtrack of my life. Do others of you feel this way? Do you hear a song and have it transport you to a different time or place in your life? Think about a special person perhaps? There are songs that I will always identify with a certain person. A great example of this is "Three Little Birds" by Bob Marley, my dad would play me that song when I was sad as a child. Now whenever I hear it, it just makes me smile and think of him. Then there are the sweet songs that make you think of an ex boyfriend or lover...and they might not even be the most romantic of songs, but they were YOUR song! I love how someone has taken the power of the written word, put it with melody, music, etc and made it so that it is shared with the world in a way that just a poem or short story might not have?

Ok, that is my ramble for today...may you all have the joy of hearing a song that makes you get a smile today!

:)

So recently a lighthearted debate was started amongst my friends about my being a high maintenance gal or not. My one guy friend asserted that I was to which I stood holding my phone in shock going

 " NO WAY!!! "

You see he lives in Vegas and we were having a friendly phone chat about our fun times that day. Something I said about what I did made him say I was HM, to which I took offense. He said he didn't mean it in a bad way at all though. Now to me there isn't really a good way to be HM? It implies being of a difficult nature, harder to please...etc, right? He said that when he first met me, mind you this was back in HS as we have known each other that long, he thought I was a bit spoiled and HM. I said truly? and you still think that after all these years?

Yes, I am certainly very particular in the things in my life, but HM? Wow.

So, this started a whole debate amongst the whole circle of friends that were there with me at the bar that evening. Out of 10 of my friends...4 girls,6 guys the total was 8 not HM and 2 for yes. So, two of my guys friends say that because I am unfraid to ask for what I want...I am HM   : )

Oh well then, I claim that title proudly...woohoo.

One person view of HM might be anothers view of becoming more assertive.

I choose to speak my mind, hopefully being mindful of others feelings as they are of mine also   : )

Ok, Let me preface this by saying I do enjoy the taste of alcohol now and again myself. Now having said that...I work in a bar. Therefore I tend to see people at their VERY worst. It honestly hurts my heart sometimes to see people come INTO a bar so F'D up that they can barely stand and try to get more to drink?!?@!

Please tell me why this has become the cool thing for the young kids to do. I do remember tossing back a couple shots & beers in college, but these kids start with shots, finish with shots and oh yeah have shots in between...they skip everything else now! They get pissed as heck too when you say that they are cut off...what do you mean I am drunk? I can still stand up, can't I? haha

I love my job...really I do!!!

teehee

Ok, so I had the worlds longest day yesterday. I ended up working a double at the restaurant. 11-4:30 as a server, home to where I am house sitting to change clothes, eat, feed the dogs then back to work 6-9:30 as a bartender. Sound fun? Oh boy was it!! People who are out to have a romantic sweet special meal for valentines all want to order glass of wine or fancy speciality cocktails. IF I never make another one of our crazy martinis again I would be happy. One of the owners of our rest. decided less than a week ago to roll out a new martini list....18 martinis deep. With muddled fruit even. Have to say though, I made $200 so far without tips from some of the servers who worked last evening, so I am going to say that while I did not receive much in the way of love of Valentines from my friends...I got a lot of green paper type of love from my customers   : )

Hope everyone else had a great day!

So it is Valentines day once again. Once again I am single on this day that celebrates love among couples. However, I have decided that I am not going to look upon this as a reason to be upset or unhappy that I myself am not part of a couple. Rather to celebrate all of the love that I DO have in my life. My family and friends who are with me when those romantic relationship are not. The people who hold my hand when my silly boyfriends break my tender lil heart. My friends who remind my of what made me fall for that boy in the first place and show me the good parts of the relationship so I can look for the best of each one and hopefully find better in the future.

So for those of you single folks out there, think of the possiblities and remember the love that does already exist in your life.

happy valentines day

oh yes it is SO that time of year again...

I live in what is the cutest, yet tiniest cottage by the sea. A small one bedroom, perfect for just me. However I have this silly little tendency to gather items that I do not need....or do not use...thus every once and a while I must weed thru and get RID of STUFF!!!!

So every 3-4 months I do what I call my purge ( haha ) I go thru the closets, if I can't remember when I wore it last it goes. If a picture never made it up unto the wall it goes. May I just say that my friends LOVE this...they all get fabulous stuff from my cleaning parties! This time though the big thing is that I am dying to actually paint my walls and put new carpet down in my house....so I am looking at it all with new eyes. Furniture and pictures, everything. Most I love, but a few small things will make it way out to the thrift store or friends. It feels quite freeing actually, like letting go of stress to a small degree?

Speaking of stress, my car is getting fixed by way of my mom! She called last evening and said she would send me money to fix it. This makes it much easier than me waiting for my tax refund to come back in before getting the darn work dome on it...yippee!!!

well off to finish cleaning...have a great day all!!!

xoxox

So, yet again it is that time of year...Valentines Day. Where couples are to buy sappy gifts for their loved ones to show they care. While single people dread the days coming.I decided that this year even though I am quite decided single I would celebrate that fact! I sent valentines out to all my friends....single or not. Bought myself a lil treat, new bedding ( woohoo, I know ) .

A local bar is having a anti valentines party...there thought is that single people go to bars...couples go to restauarants! It is a great point. I myself actually hate this day, even when I have a boyfriend. The idea of someone dictating when you should recieve a gift just seems silly. I would so rather get a lil thing of flowers for no reason on a random day. Or be taken for a picnic because he thought it would be fun? So hoping that all of my shoutpost friends be you single or taken have a fabulous Valentines day!!

xoxox

So, my car that I bought just about 6 months ago to have a decent car while I saved for the down on a "new" car decided it wanted to die on me. Basically it had a leak in the radiator that we didn't notice until it did some serious damage. So now my choice is to sepnd as much as I paid for the car to have it work right....or sell it for 1/3 of what I paid for it for parts!

I so hate dealing with crap like this...I have the world's worst luck with cars...makes me never want to own one again!

thanks for letting me vent!

So Sat. eve went and say English Beat at a local bar. It rocked, Dave wakeling still knows how to put out a great show!! The only issue I had at all was the older crowd that thought they would get a lil pushy and touchy on the limited dance area. My butt & boobs got quite a bit of "accidental" contact...almost to the point of me wanting to punch someone. I behaved though and only shoved them towards the "mosh pit " haha

Makes me wanna go to a bunch more shows now...hope we get lots more good stuff soon!

So I attendted a memorial service yesterday afternoon for a local guy who was friends with my brother.

He was a happy go lucky guy that I remember as always smiling, happy with life and making those around him feel the same way. The saddest part of the day to me though besides seeing his devestated family was how the only time that all of the old group gets together is for a wedding or service like we were at Sat.

These are people who have been friends for the past 15-25 years, but it takes these type of events to gather them all.

The memorial itself was beautiful. Some family and friends shared stories of him and how he touched their lives. Then all of the surfers in the group ( and there are a lot ) paddled out and did a circle. The rest of us walked out on the pier and threw roses into the water. His brother and a couple others scattered his ashes and said a prayer.

Just really made me think about all of my friends and family.

You need to treasure each & every moment.

Know that even if you do not think so, you touch the lives of others.

Be thankful for all your blessings and let go of the negative as life really is much to short to dwell upon the negatives.

Love and Blessings to all

So big superbowl game today, going to a little party this afternoon. Asked what I could bring to it and was voted to make jello shots. Yes my group of friends are drinkers! So ran out of lil plastic cups to put them in so going to make jello jigglers 

I am sure the guys there will laugh, but they taste just as good...just look a lil more fancy.

hahaha

Also pulling for the numbers I got in my bar's football pool to come in for me 

I could use some extra cash to fix my car!

Hope you all have fun watching the game...I know I will.

So I am in charge of a group of people at my job. One of them did not show up for a shift...there were prior issues with said person, thus we decided as a whole to terminate her employment. Now I got called this afternoon to be asked if I had anything to add or if I had changed my mind. I hate that what was 2 days ago a group decision is now being laid more upon my shoulders. I agree with all the things that were said & decided at that time. I do feel bad that she will not take this well ( in my opinion at least ) .

It is hard for me as I want to be liked by my staff, but there are times that these type of things come up. When they do, as the management we tend to get the most negative reactions...even if the person being let go has done stuff to be worthy of us taking the action. I guess I just needed to vent a little bit about it all...